Blessings and responsibilities not suffering

As I have said before, parenting is as varied as every mother you know. No single mother can say that they have mastered the correct way to parent children, it is not possible, for many reason but simply because every child is different and what works for your baby might not work for mine. God created us different and so we have to live with that. However, what almost every mother agrees with is that children are a blessing from God and they are blessings give to us. BLESSINGS, is what they are that little one who totally depends on you is a blessing.
Children are not only a blessing but also a RESPONSIBILITY to us parents and more so mothers if I may dare say especially in the first few months. Even the state recognises this blessing and responsibility that they give us a whole three months to enjoy and teach.
It is unfair for us to enjoy the blessing of having a child and deny the responsibility that comes with it. To think that someone else will take up that responsibility for us as we just enjoy and live in bliss is not fair even to our children. I have been a teacher and so I know parents who took the responsibility to teach their children and others who just enjoyed the blessing and left the teaching to someone else- someone else here being the school/teacher.
I do not believe for a minute that blessings come with suffering, if God blesses you surely why should you suffer. Why should you stay awake through EVERY night with your blessing? God is not that unfair that He would let you suffer like that. So I guess this is where responsibility to the blessing comes, to teach your child how to sleep at night is one way.
The other day a friend called asking me to help her because her baby was not sleeping at night, she would go down at 12 AM and by 5 AM she was up again. This mum was still on her maternity leave but understood that in a few months she would need the sleep because she would need the strength for the day. So after a long chat, she decided to try what worked for me. After a week, she called to say that baby sleeps at 7:30 and wakes up twice just for 30 minutes to feed and goes back to sleep.
This is for new mums, there is an alternative to suffering and being up the whole night. I believe without a doubt that you can take up the responsibility of training your baby to sleep from an early age and by the time 3 months are over, you will have rested well enough for you to go back to work and not feel like a truck ran over you every morning. This way you will be more productive at work and look forward to be home with baby because you are well rested.
Post partum depression can hit anyone, I suffered it for almost a month, then, I had no idea it was depression, I would cry and though my husband was at my beck and call I was crashed. Between a C-Section wound and sore nipples and engorged boobs and a baby with eczema, I was bound to go crazy. The one thing that helped me was my baby was getting into a routine and for some reason God chose not to add colic into the mix.
My opinion, take the responsibility to train your child and you will not need to suffer because you are blessed.
Have a nice day, be strong