Very often we throw in comment here and there to pregnant women and even mothers, we often do not consider their emotional state and how they feel. Here is a mother’s perspective on what she would rather you do not ask.
Your baby is big for a 6 month old that is how big they should be? This is not a good question you are insinuating that I am overfeeding my baby. Do not go ahead to remind me the size of your baby when they were 6 months either, it is not a competition it will never be.
If you are using diapers on a boy especially they might become infertile, you should use nappies that is not true, if I use a nappy, I will need to add a ‘plastic pant’, which is as bad if not worse. No, research has not found that diapers are bad for boys.
You are looking too big to be 5 months pregnant, are you sure you are not carrying twins or triplets? That is insensitive, and outright mean. If you do not know what to say just say congratulations and pass on the chitchat.
Do not remind me that my face has broken out and so I might be carrying a boy, I know it has and it makes me uncomfortable, I miss my smooth face and your reminder is not helping. If you want to guess the gender of my baby, go ahead without referencing to any part of my changing body.
If baby looks likes the mother, do not address the father this way. ‘You need to find out the truth, there is nothing that looks like you in this baby…’ it sounds like a nice joke but can plant insecurities in the long run especially if said over and over…
The baby eats all that! He must be a good feeder. I can see what you did there, you just tried to cover up a mistake with a complement, it is not nice, it never comes out right no matter how you say it. If the food amount was a problem then I would have known by now and made the necessary adjustments.
The above question is sometimes addressed to the mother, ‘you eat all that, you must be eating like that to make sure you get enough milk.’ My food portions should not come up in any conversation we are having.
I am just a mother trying to do my best to have a smooth pregnancy and birth
#benice
